I do not know about ya’ll, but man, I was so thrilled to wake up yesterday and realize that weekend was finally here! Too bad it has almost come to an end. Last week has been such an intense week, where I have found myself hanging on a thread between thesis writing, wedding arrangements, work, meetings, visiting loved ones and celebrated that one particular day a year that some have loathed, some have dreaded and others have waited for: Valentine’s day.
My Facebook and Instagram feed got flooded with anticipation, expectations, the search for the perfect Valentine’s date and of course an undeniable portion of disappointments, caused by looking at others. This day is that one particular day a year whereby – and I say this without a single doubt – the personalities of people are undeniably put under a social magnifying glass. But strangely, I have never actually felt anything for Valentine. Only because it always got me these vibes, of which I witness most societies being split into two camps. One camp is being treated and praised for having a partner to share “love day” with, in comparison to the other camp which is subdivided into those who are desperately in search of someone to share that love with, while others condemn their own camp mates.
When I was still single my mother used to tell me that I am her Valentine and we have sort of made a tradition out of it. I mean Valentine’s day should not be a thing standing on its own in the first place, rather be an addition to a love and relationship that already exists. May it be between you as partners, you as friends, or a parent-child relationship. There should be nothing wrong with a day that centers on love, in a world where disparity, hate crimes, naming vs. shaming, oppression and the raising of voices is promoted everywhere. So we should praise celebrating love more often, that is all I want to say.
Aran and I thought that it would be good to go on a date again during this whole wedding planning. Because trust me, between the planning and working, we can get quite intense. So we decided to go on an old skool cinema date to spark that love, since watching movies is really our thing. Luckily, I found this amazing guy that almost shares the same movie interests as I do. Considering, my diverse taste in movies, raging from old Hollywood black & white, to Lord of the Rings fantasy, to Gladiator history, to Love and Basketball black movies and X-Men superhero, it’s difficult to find someone who loves 80% of the movies I digg. But God knew my heart loool and gave me this incredible man, with impeccable taste in movies.
So on Valentine’s day, you could find us in our African wear in the cinema at the official release of Black panther! And that movies was E-VERY-THING my African-artistic-history-superhero-loving heart needed, because THIS IS THE MOVIE THE BLACK COMMUNITY HAS LONG BEEN WAITING FOR!!!! I love how Lupita Nyongo described the entirety of this movie’s storyline by stating that: “It’s such a rich tapestry, that it’ll wake people up to a different idea of what Africa really is. That’s an idea we don’t often consider, that there is so much diversity in black cultural identity”. All hail the flawless and ever beautiful, Lupita.
Next to the fact that we are celebrating another Marvel film – because we love Marvel to the bone – this movie allows us, as a black community, to celebrate history being made. One our generations before us envisioned. Because from now on, cinema screens all over the world have portrayed the richness, diversity and opportunities of African soil and culture. From this day forward, black children all over the world will look at superheroes and be allowed to pretend to proudly be the one they can physically identify themselves with. Wakanda made us celebrate all shades of melanin, all types of hair, a big treasure of African jewelry and the beauty of African mother tongues.
If you haven’t seen it yet, you totally should! And once again, this date made me even more smitten with this man, because he and African culture is just a big yessssssssssss!! If you are in the midst of wedding planning, or if you are married for x years, or just dating, I could suggest doing as much outdoor things as you can, just to keep that magic flowing. From strolls in the park, to dancing, to dinner, skating or picnics, it’s the little things that matter. ❤